One thing I’ve learned throughout life, is that when people try to hurt and insult you, they always go for what they believe is your greatest vulnerability, but I find that this always reveals much more about them than it does about you. In assessing what they think will hurt you the most, they nearly always miss the mark, instead revealing their own vulnerability.
Over the past few months when people try to attack me, several people have tried to characterize me as “lonely”, or a “lonely old man”. I find this very amusing. I am anything but lonely. I have not been exiled to a solitary existence in the least populated state in the Union, I am here 100% by choice, and I cherish and thrive in my solitude. I truly believe that through my own inner work over the course of a lifetime that I have truly vanquished, conquered, loneliness forever. The concept doesn’t even compute with me.
There are many reasons why I am never lonely anymore. Chiefly, I have practiced silent meditation for 32 years now. This gives one a deep root in oneself, and a very real and tangible connection to Nature, “the Universe”, God, or whatever you want to call it. I feel the Spirit of Life initmately, all around me, at all times. As long as the sun shines, the stars glow, and the wind blows, I can never feel lonely. Rather, I feel a quiet joy in a simple, solitary existence.
Secondly, I really do love myself. I enjoy my own company. I make myself laugh. I enjoy my thoughts, my creativity, I even enjoy my struggles. It’s all good to me. The very nature of life is challenges and growth, and I very much enjoy the process and do not shy from it.
Thirdly, I no longer have a need for approval or affirmations from others. Everything I needed to prove to myself, I have. I have accomplished the dreams and desires of my adolescence, and over time, even these have fallen away, leaving me free to simply enjoy being without yearning for anything outside of myself or needing to prove anything.
I really see loneliness as a sign of Spiritual Poverty. It is a lacking, a desiring of something external to fill an inner void. I am not empty inside, but very rich, very blessed. This is like an unextinguishable pilot light of joy inside me. It never fades or flickers.
Isolation can be terrifying for many, but I have already passed through that trial by fire and emerged on the other side as something new. It reminds of the Brair Rabbit story, “Don’t throw me in the briar patch!”. Isolation is like a briar patch that most fear, full of pain and darkness. But to he who knows the briar patch, it is a cozy world of many tunnels and pathways, hidden treasures, safe and secure nests.
I think the best evidence that I am not lonely is my heatlh. Loneliness more often than not drives people to bad habits to cope with their isolation, be it porn addiction, substance addiction, food addiction. None of these apply to me anymore. Everyday since I’ve moved out here, I’ve become more fit, more sober, more free, more happy.
I find it amusing that my enemies and haters want me to be a lonely old man, as if they need me to be so to soften their own shortcomings and validate their erroneous views of the world. Sorry kids, it just ain’t so. I am neither lonely nor unhappy, and nothing and nobody can take away that inner pilot light of quiet joy and connection inside me. Remember, we refer to the solitary wolf as a “Lone Wolf”, not a “Lonely Wolf”. There is a key difference there. Solitude is my spouse, and I am deeply in Love.